Teaching expected behavior

We need to teach our students EXPLICITLY what is EXPECTED behavior.  But how do we do that?  

Michelle Garcia Winner uses the language “expected” and “unexpected” to define behavior within a group.   For some students the terms expected and unexpected can be a bit abstract. In order to make the concepts a bit more concrete, I've been using the terms "stop" and "go".

GO behaviors are things people do that are “expected”.  They often make people feel good or comfortable.

STOP behaviors are things people do that are “unexpected”.  They often make people feel bad or uncomfortable.

As soon as my students have an understanding of "stop" behaviors and "go" behaviors, I begin to introduce the vocabulary of "expected" or "unexpected".

I often teach this concept by simply sorting behaviors into stop and go with a Boardmaker sort Stop and Go Behavior Sort.   There are MANY books that can be used to teach this concept as well. Here are some of the books that I like to use.

How Do Dinosaurs Eat Their Cookies?	Jane Yolen and Mark Teague
I Can Make Good Choices	David Parker
I Have Manners	David Parker
Clark the Shark	Bruce Hale
David Goes to School	David Shannon
Duck Rabbit	Amy Krause Rosenthal Tom Lichtenheld
How Do Dinosaurs Eat Their Food?	Jane Yolen and Mark Teague
How Do Dinosaurs Say I'm MAD?	Jane Yolen and Mark Teague
How Do Dinosaurs Stay Friends?	Jane Yolen and Mark Teague
How Do Dinosaurs Stay SAFE?	Jane Yolen and Mark Teague
Lacey Walker, Nonstop Talker	Christianne Jones
Little Dino's Don't Hit	Michael Dahl
Little Miss Chatterbox	Roger Hargreaves
May I Please Have A Cookie?	Jennifer E. Morris
May I Please Have A Cookie?	Jennifer E. Morris
No, David	David Shannon
Should I Share my Ice Cream	Mo Willems
The Busy Beaver	Nicholas Oldland

Here's a fun video my students have really enjoyed that further illustrates this concept. :)

Becky